It's Never Too Late...
Don't buy into the hype that time is running out. Instead, dive in with an openness and willingness to live your dream life at any age.
Welcome to #MoodMindset, where we share mindset and manifesting tips, plus, reflections on self-love and personal development. Enjoy today’s post, an end-of-the-year reflection co-written by Sujeiry and Krista titled “It’s Never Too Late…” Because it’s never too late to live your dream life!
It’s never too late,” people say. I didn’t believe that until recently. I thought it would be too late if I didn’t fulfill my dreams by a certain age. I dreaded getting older, every birthday serving as a reminder of what I had not yet accomplished. I dreaded New Year’s Eve as it magnified my perceived failures. I wanted to crawl into a ball and give up hope that the New Year would be any different.
This year, however, I’m excited for what’s to come because I've learned about conscious creation (manifestation). I understand that my consistent thoughts and beliefs shape my perception and create my experiences. I’ve intentionally discarded limiting beliefs about aging, relationships, success, and timelines and shared these insights with Krista…
What I love about the lessons we’ve learned is that they mostly took place in our 40s.
Sujeiry and I have known each other since our chaotic late 20s when 40 felt so far away and time felt infinite. Since then, we’ve both lived a lot of life. And our lives haven’t always looked like that of others with the “typical checkboxes.” So it’s easy to see how we could have fallen into the trap of “it’s too late.”
While I took the bold step of moving cross country at 39, my dreams of a vibrant, active life where all my dreams came true and I lived happily ever after came crashing down when six months later the world ground to a halt due to COVID. Time evaporated right in front of my eyes. And if I’m honest, I struggled.
How did I move through? It wasn’t easy, but I tried to find as much joy, adventure, and fulfillment as I could. Right where I was. I did a LOT of work on myself through therapy and coaching so that I could embrace new opportunities, challenges, and experiences from a grounded place. And I leaned into hope that the dreams and desires of my heart would find their way to me in their own time.
Thanks to a shift in perspective, amazing experiences and opportunities are flowing into my life and Krista’s both individually and as business partners. This can be the case for you as well. Just remember that it’s never too late to…
Start a business, change careers, or launch a project
Krista and I started Corner of Press after an overdue video call. We both felt inspired to write again and venture into romance novel writing. As former journalists, this was unchartered territory, but we took the plunge anyway, publishing the first Corner of Press romance novella nine months later. Since 2023, we’ve learned tons and have officially formed our LLC. And at 40-something years old! Because it’s never too late to start a business, change careers, or pursue a passion!
This new year, make a list of your interests. Take a chance on yourself by taking the first step to explore your heart's desires. If we can do it, you can too!
Get back into the dating pool
It doesn’t matter how long it’s been since you’ve dated. If you want to make a love connection, get back out there! Whether you join a dating app, go to singles events, or immerse yourself in activities and meet someone special, it’s never too late to start over in love.
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Focus your energy on loving thoughts. Repeat affirmations such as, “I am lucky in love,” or “I am attracting love easily,” as soon as you wake up and drift off to sleep. Write a list of what you want in a romantic partner and reread it daily with optimism. Believe that it’s never too late to find love, and love will find you!
Find your girl tribe
Ten years ago, I moved to Long Island, NY, and struggled to find my girl tribe. I would constantly complain about not having friends here, therefore, I didn’t connect with any girlfriends. That is how powerful the mind is. The more I focused on my old belief that it was difficult to make friends later in life, the more impossible the task seemed. At 44, I decided to drop that notion. Six months later, I met my first friend at the grocery store. Since then, I’ve continued growing my tribe of local, like-minded friends who align with my values and are also fun AF.
So, it’s never too late to meet your people. Remove this doubt from your mind and put yourself out there!
Learn yourself and shift your mindset
The beliefs we hold about ourselves and how we self-identity shapes our life. If you constantly think or say to yourself, “I’m always broke,” you will perceive the world from a place of lack. If you dwell on heartbreak or believe you will end up alone, it’ll be difficult to experience a committed, long-term relationship. That’s because our thoughts become things! What we consistently think about, even subconsciously, creates our life experiences.
If you feel stuck, it is not too late for a mindset shift. Try affirmations, visualizing your dream life, and/or journaling about what you wish to experience. Make this a regular practice. Learn to stay in the present moment with meditation or by reminding yourself to stay present. (I do this by asking myself, “Where are you?” I then focus on my present environment to snap me out of anxious or fearful thoughts about the future). This mindset shift can completely change your life!
Travel the world
There’s nothing like charting your own path, creating your own agenda, and moving as you please on a vacation. While I love traveling with some of my favorite travel partners, some of my favorite trips were just me, myself, and I. When I traveled to Paris solo at 35, it was one of the most freeing and empowering experiences. I relished the chance to cultivate my own unique experience. I meandered at my own pace at museums, not subject to anyone else’s schedule. When I needed to sleep in, I pivoted the next day without worry of disrupting anyone else’s plans. I indulged in every crepe and croissant to my heart’s desire.
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Is there somewhere you’d love to explore that you haven’t? You don’t have to wait for your bestie. Pick a date, pick a location, and just go! Life is too short to wait on anyone else. You are responsible for you!
Learn a new skill
As a child, I never learned how to swim. Because I can barely do a doggy paddle, I either avoided or was very cautious around water, which kept me from fully enjoying some experiences - like snorkeling without a life jacket! Just this fall I decided to sign up for a swim clinic! I felt so proud of myself as I learned the basics and look forward to taking more classes and gaining more skills!
Whether it’s swimming like me, or learning a new language or instrument, it’s never too late. You don’t have to be the next Katie Ledecky or become completely fluent in French, or a concert pianist. You could set a goal of being able to swim in the deep end of the pool on vacation. Or being able to converse with the server at a restaurant in Paris. Or being able to play some tunes for your friends during the holidays. Learn for the passion of learning for YOU!
Enter the new year with our golden nuggets in mind. Learn more about manifestation and mindset, and how to do things differently. Throw away old beliefs and create new ones that benefit you and your desires. Create a plan for navigating the tough times. Dive in with an openness and willingness to live your dream life at any age. Because it’s never too late to love and value yourself, shift your mindset, and create the life that you desire.