6 Common Sex Dreams and What They Mean
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Some people remember their dreams. Others snooze through the night and wake up clueless because they don’t respond to outside stimuli as easily. In other words, they’re heavy sleepers. Well, snap out of it! ‘Cause some dreams are too juicy to forget. That’s right: we’re talking about sex dreams. And these common sex dreams signify a lot more than being horny.
6 Common Sex Dreams and What They Mean
Take a look at what these dream analysts had to say about the meaning of 6 common sex dreams.
Dream #1: Cheating on a significant other
You’re wrestling in bed — with another lover! Santo Dios! Does that mean you want to cheat on your significant other? Not exactly.
In your dreams, “you can have sex with everyone, in every position, in every exotic locale and still wake up in the morning wrapped in the stability of a monogamous relationship,” Kelly Sullivan Walden, dream guru, and certified clinical hypnotherapist, explained.
You can wrap your arms around Ryan Guzman and your relationship is still safe!
On the flip side, if you are unhappy with your love, “this dream can indicate a desire for variety, adventure, and sexual stimulation that you’re not finding in your present love affair,” continued Walden.
If you’re constantly wondering if the grass is greener on the other side, explore these feelings before you cheat when you’re awake.
Dream #2: Being cheated on
This common sex dream stems from fear and insecurity, especially if it’s a recurring dream. “Remember,” said Kelly, “seldom are these dreams literal; they should prompt you to ask yourself, ‘Where am I cheating on me?’”
Are you dishonoring yourself in your relationship or ignoring your intuition and desires? Are you settling? Do you feel you are unworthy? “This dream might be a message to face your insecurities and embark on a path of self-discovery and healing,” Walden expanded. So, nip it in the bud by reflecting on your fears.
Dream #3: Sex with a dead person
Ay que miedo! How could this be a common sex dream?! It happens. One night you might doze off to sleep only to dream of having sex with a person who’s passed on. “That person could be making contact with you especially if you have an unquenchable longing for that soul,” Fahrusha, a psychic reader and intuitive, said. Scary indeed!
Dream #4: Sex with an ex
You wake up in a cold sweat and realize you dreamt of him! Ugh, but he’s such an ass! Don’t fret. According to Kelly, dreaming of an ex doesn’t mean you want the person back. “Such dreams are often an attempt to retrieve energy, power, or an important aspect of yourself that you may have left behind with your ex,” she said. Like, you still need to pick up that awesome waffle maker you left at his place.
Dream #5: Walk in on your man having sex
Do you secretly feel guilty or ashamed? That’s what it can mean if you dream you've walked in on your lover having sex. “It is akin to those embarrassing nude dreams,” Fahrusha noted, “such as when you dream you went to school accidentally with nothing on your bottom.” In the end, you may fear social embarrassment or humiliation regarding your sexuality.
Dream #6: An orgasm that feels real
Wet dreams are very common and not just during adolescence. They simply mean that you’re open about experiencing pleasure.
“Sometimes when you dream you are more receptive than you might be in waking reality to explore beyond your typical sensual delights,” Walden explained. “Thus, a dream sexual experience can be incredibly diverse and satisfying.”
When you do have a wet dream, Katie suggests noting what gave you the awesome orgasm. It’s a great indication of what turns you on and this “self-awareness will lead to a deeper understanding of your pleasure principle.”
Let me grab my notepad.
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